In Face Your Fears, Follow Your Dreams, Learning from Legends, Overcome Obstacles

As graduation season nears, I can’t help but think of my favorite Commencement Address of all time: J.K. Rowling’s “The Fringe Benefits of Failure, and the Importance of Imagination” given to Harvard University’s Class of 2008. This is a must-see/must-read for anyone who’s chasing a dream. Not only is Rowling’s speech full of inspiration, but she sheds light on all that can be gleaned from failure (which is very uplifting if you’ve spent any recent period of time banging your head against the wall).

Here’s my favorite part:

“Ultimately, we all have to decide for ourselves what constitutes failure, but the world is quite eager to give you a set of criteria if you let it. So I think it fair to say that by any conventional measure, a mere seven years after my graduation day, I had failed on an epic scale. An exceptionally short-lived marriage had imploded, and I was jobless, a lone parent, and as poor as it is possible to be in modern Britain, without being homeless. The fears that my parents had had for me, and that I had had for myself, had both come to pass, and by every usual standard, I was the biggest failure I knew.

Now, I am not going to stand here and tell you that failure is fun. That period of my life was a dark one, and I had no idea that there was going to be what the press has since represented as a kind of fairy tale resolution. I had no idea then how far the tunnel extended, and for a long time, any light at the end of it was a hope rather than a reality.

So why do I talk about the benefits of failure? Simply because failure meant a stripping away of the inessential. I stopped pretending to myself that I was anything other than what I was, and began to direct all my energy into finishing the only work that mattered to me. Had I really succeeded at anything else, I might never have found the determination to succeed in the one arena I believed I truly belonged. I was set free, because my greatest fear had been realised, and I was still alive, and I still had a daughter whom I adored, and I had an old typewriter and a big idea. And so rock bottom became the solid foundation on which I rebuilt my life.

You might never fail on the scale I did, but some failure in life is inevitable. It is impossible to live without failing at something, unless you live so cautiously that you might as well not have lived at all – in which case, you fail by default.

Failure gave me an inner security that I had never attained by passing examinations. Failure taught me things about myself that I could have learned no other way. I discovered that I had a strong will, and more discipline than I had suspected; I also found out that I had friends whose value was truly above the price of rubies.

The knowledge that you have emerged wiser and stronger from setbacks means that you are, ever after, secure in your ability to survive. You will never truly know yourself, or the strength of your relationships, until both have been tested by adversity. Such knowledge is a true gift, for all that it is painfully won, and it has been worth more than any qualification I ever earned.

So given a Time Turner, I would tell my 21-year-old self that personal happiness lies in knowing that life is not a check-list of acquisition or achievement. Your qualifications, your CV, are not your life, though you will meet many people of my age and older who confuse the two. Life is difficult, and complicated, and beyond anyone’s total control, and the humility to know that will enable you to survive its vicissitudes.”

To watch (or read) Rowling’s address, click here: http://harvardmagazine.com/commencement/the-fringe-benefits-failure-the-importance-imagination

Tell me, what has failure taught you?

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  • Linda
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    I’ve never read that before, and I loved it!!! I couldn’t have said it better, actually. The point of life at which I “failed”–failed marriage, cancer stricken–I learned the same thing she did–it wasn’t as bad as I thought it would be. Life becomes about minutes at those times because you don’t have the mental strength or luxury to think too far ahead or too far back. In that way, it slows down. You feel like you’ve lived more and better. You take chances you wouldn’t have taken. You do the things that are REALLY important to you because you’re sick of losing opportunities. You listen with your whole heart looking for anything that rings true because you’re craving Truth both in yourself and in the world. When things go along smoothely we create “roles” (which soon become expectations) for ourselves. Roles will kill you, or make you feel like you’ve already died.

    That’s what I’ve learned from failure.

    • Erika Liodice
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      Hi Linda,
      Thanks for sharing! It’s liberating to realize that failure might not actually be as bad we imagine.

      Glad you enjoyed Rowling’s speech 🙂

      Erika

  • Reply

    I had not heard of this before either. Thanks for the tip! I love what I’ve read so far.

    • Erika Liodice
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      Hi Rebecca,
      Glad you enjoyed this. I know Rowling’s words really resonated with me and helped me gain a healthier perspective on “failure.”

      Erika

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